A few
months ago, I used to do an internship in
a rehabilitation center to fulfill the practice of my course. I used to talk and play
games with the mentally challenged and
drug addicts.
I found them different as I used to think about them. They were
treated with medicine and regular counseling.
Sometimes I was also allowed in the counseling room. They have their own problem
behind their wrong behavior.
After that I got a dream
to get some drug addict in my life not for love just to cure and relief them
from the drug. Someone says, if you wish
something it will come true. The same thing happens in my journey of life.
After 1 month one guy calls me when I was in office. He introduces himself as my fan and likes the article which I have posted on my blog about the mental problem. It was hard to believe me. I thought it might be blackmail. So, I threaten him with few words and cut call like a knife cut the vegetables.
Next day also he calls me
when I was returning to the room from
work. He introduces himself and told that he was also from Pokhara, the same city where I belong. He says he got my
number from my blog. He also told his friend is in the hospital for the treatment. That article was relevant for his friend.
I have written few words about the mental
problem and not to hate them. He says that he feels pretty with those words.
I feel good when someone
told that I read your articles and it touched me. Maybe all the writer feel the same. I just thanked him and have a
doubt on him. My heart was smiling as I was near to fulfill my dream.
He started to call me
once in a week. We used to have a simple
conversation about our studies, work, family,
and life. He used to call me from his landline by saying that his parents are
out of the home. His speaks in a childish manner. He was 4th semester BBA
student but he speaks as he was in grade 8.
I have a big doubt upon him whether he is child or youth.
I have a doubt upon him as he was a drug addict. But I was not able to ask him. I
just used to pick up his phone. I used to speak with him by thinking that I
will relieve him from drug one day.
One day he asks me when
will you come to Pokhara? I have replied may be after few weeks. Will you meet
me? I was unanswered for a while and say yes. I have also said him that I will
stay in your house. At this time, he was in confusion by my question. As being
a boy it is hard to take girlfriend in the house in our society. He says yes
and question on me. What to say to my parents? Cannot you say she is my friend,
I have replied. He just laughs.
In this way, we used to have a conversation on phone. Sometimes
he used to call once in a week, sometimes
once in a month. He also told that he loves writing and written few stories and
articles too. Once he used to publish but now he left because his friend called
him a writer. I was shocked by his thought. I suggest him to write continuously
by making a blog. I have also suggested
him to send his article. He has mailed
me, it was nice. His writing was good.
After some time, he
called me after months and told me that
he has added to my Facebook and Twitter. I have accepted his friend request on Facebook and follow back on Twitter.
He was very thin like a bird without the feather.
Next day it was about 8 p.m. when he sent hi on Facebook. After that, we
started to have a conversation. After few chat, I have asked him a question which was
burning in my mind since I used to talk with him from the beginning. Do you take the drug? He simply replied yes, how do you know? I
have judged from your profile picture, answered. I have tried to call him in
messenger but he cut my phone and says just to write text.
Till now also I am taking
the drug so, I am unable to receive your
call, he replied. I have raised him few questions. Why do you take the drug? Why don't you want to live in the real world?
He replied I am the single son of my parents. I have 5 big sisters. My parents have
lots of property in my name. I have bank balance and everything. He has written
a long message.
I have tried to convince him, cannot you live without
the drug, please try to live in real
world. Your parents have lots of hope on you. He replied who are you to give me
a suggestion? I am nobody but a student of social work who wants to change the society
and change the life of a person like you.
He seems aggressive towards me and he had written you bitch! just go to hell
and blocked me from Facebook and Twitter.
I feel bad for that day.
I was near to fulfill my dream but not able. As being a
social work student it is not easy to change a single
person like the teachers give example while teaching. It is not easy as we give
examples while writing the answer. I have
deleted his number from my cell phone. Do
not know I will meet the same kind of person
again in my life or not. But the theory which I am learning is not working in
my practical life.
The same question
burn in my mind
Like a fire
What is attitude?
Can I sell it ?
Anybody interested to buy ?
Is it like a dirt
which hamper me
like a small insect
hamper my eye
Someone flatter on me like
I have brought it in kilos and kilos
and sold it to everyone around me
free of cost
just make some dollars
free of cost.
Can I fly with my attitude?
can I swim?
can I sing?
can I dance?
can I .....bloom?.......
I just sit on the floor
think for a while
Found nothing
just the dark future
and lots of pain.
Feminism is simply the quest for the equality of the sexes which provokes strong reactions.They are an advocate or
the supporter of the rights and equality of women. There are lots of feminist
in our country who write articles in different magazines and newspaper as well
as books. Among them Neelam Karki Niharika is one who has written many articles
as well as book for the better life of women.
About Author:
Neelam Karki
Niharika is a novelist, poet as well as story writer. She was born in 1974 A.D.
in Palpa, Nepal. She has completed her MA in Nepali Literature. Her first poem
was published in Kisan Magazine when she was in grade 6. Her first novel was
published in 1994 AD. Karki’s book “Cheerharan” has become a best seller in
Nepal in 2016. She is a well- respected writer in Nepal and her works are
highly sought by newspapers, television and radio media. She has involved in
different organizations as well as worked in different institutions.
She has
written many novels such as “Maun Jeevan”, “Niyatiko Khel”, “Timi Ma ra Uni”and
“Cheerharan”. She has also published story books such as “Hawan”and “Kagaj ma Dastakhat”. Along with this she has
also published poem books named Neelam Karki Niharika ka kabita , Brain Fever ,
etc. She has been awarded with different award and prize. She was awarded in
National Poem Competition, Janmatsab National Poem Competition, etc. She was
recently awarded by Padmashree Puraskar for her novel titled Cheerharan. Her latest book,
Cheerharan, has been short-listed for this year’s edition of the prestigious
Madan Puraskar- Nepal’s highest literary honour.
She is unique and a highly respected
writer. Her writing skills have added a new dimension and continue to enrich
Nepali literature. Her contribution to the social and political changes in
Nepal can hardly be exaggerated. Her themes such as male-dominated society,
caste, class, poverty, corruption, and tyranny has triggered intellectual
debate among the Nepalese people and is providing impetus to on-going changes
in the country.
Neelam Karki
Niharika has written many articles related to feminism which is published in
different newspapers and magazines. The book titled “Cheerharan” is based in
the story of Mahabharat, myth of Hinduism. The story of ancient period is
compare with the story of present women of our society. Some parts of Mahabharat
is taken for this novel. Some of the bad
activities happen in past are still prevailing in our society.
The
activities may not be same but the rape is prevalent in the society. Gender
discrimination is still existing in many parts of our country. Many infant
children are found in the street due to unwanted pregnancy. The birth of son
before marriage and his abandon for the sake of society by Kunti is still found
in some parts of our society.
There are
many character in the novel who faced lots of challenges for the happiness of
family and society. Mostly the wife is dominated by husband. There is also dispute between mother in law
and daughter in law. Women are forced to born child for the sake of family and
society like Gandhari, Ambalika and Ambika. The problem faced by different
female character is presented by writer.
One of the
female character is Satyabati who face lots of problem due to bad smell
in her body. She is married with old king Santanu to make him happy and to take
care in his old age. Next character is Ambika. She has 3 sisters who
were kidnapped by Bhisma. Her sister was in love relation with king Shalva.
After the kidnap, she was rejected by her lover. Another character is Gandhari
who is married with blind man Dhurtarastra. She closed her eyes with
handkerchief for the sake of husband. Many man tried to kidnap her due to her
beautiful face and body.
Similarly, another character is Dhaupatri. She is one of the
strong and revolutionary character. She was introducing like things by her own
husband and also the wife of five brothers. She was loose in card race by Yudistira
and make naked in front of all Kaurab, Karna and many more people. After that
she makes her hair open until she gets justice. She stands as a strong and bold
character. There is other character such as Kunti, Bhanumati, etc.
From all the above character it is proved that women forsake many things
for the sake and happiness of men. They are being used as a machine to produce
son. Beautiful women are kidnap by most of the men. Most of the women are busy
in taking care of husband and family. Many women are still kidnap by men. Women
are forced to born child for the sake of family and society. The writer tries
to aware women not to be only an instrument to produce baby. The role of
Panchali inspires women to raise their voice and revenge against violence. The
book make myself aware about the rights and roles of female in the society.
She is famous as a feminist because she compares the life of ancient
women with present scenario of society. She presents the ancient story of
Mahabharat which let us known about the condition of women in ancient period. She
presents the weaknesses of women in front of men.
My mom gave me birth
Her womb make me fall
Today is the day
When everyone call me birthday girl.
One of my school friend
make me awake at 12am
ringing call in my phone
I was surprised
make my phone off
but she called to say
Happy Birthday to birthday girl.
Within the growing age
I am one-year-old
Responsibility have
been added
Some habit to be faded
Somehow happy not a sad
Many wishes
Saying you are birthday
girl.
The day come with spark of light
My brother gives me surprise
Mother and father makes
me call
Just to wish for a
birthday girl.
I am in the age to learn more,
Hanging with boyfriend is not my goal,
I have my parents to share,
I am alone to handle the fear.
No matter who will blame on me,
No problem who will flame on me.
I have my own formula to lead a life,
I am a bee searching for the hive.
Success is a lock, searching for the key,
Finding out the way, jumping on ley,
Struggle is there, patience should be joy,
I am a girl who pursuit lonely to enjoy.
No more wishes not high dream,
pursue happiness with simple refrain,
Opportunities are less hard to face,
Challenges are more with lots of pain.
No matter who you are,
whether a ambassador ,
judge, lawyer, principal ,
respect should be there.
No mater you have high profile,
It may torture the junior,
Your bad words and threaten,
may hamper their Currier.
Your cruel behavior never show your intelligence,
your threaten may turn into negativity,
Neither you will be satisfied nor your staffs,
Why the bosses show their aggressive behavior?
How can I learn in negativity?
How can I uplift my life?
Is it my age to be treated like slave?
No more adjustment, no torture,
I am in search of good place,
Where I can learn and express myself with knowledge.
whether a ambassador ,
judge, lawyer, principal ,
respect should be there.
No mater you have high profile,
It may torture the junior,
Your bad words and threaten,
may hamper their Currier.
Your cruel behavior never show your intelligence,
your threaten may turn into negativity,
Neither you will be satisfied nor your staffs,
Why the bosses show their aggressive behavior?
How can I learn in negativity?
How can I uplift my life?
Is it my age to be treated like slave?
No more adjustment, no torture,
I am in search of good place,
Where I can learn and express myself with knowledge.
Not so tall not so small
No more talk,
frankly with all
Genius mind
not over smart
I have a
dream boy who respect girl.
Smiley face,
Small eyes
Serious in
life
Share the talk,
no more guff
I have a
dream boy who respect girl.
No rough hair,
charm in face
clear beard,
clean dress
believe in
self, motive all
I have a
dream boy who respect girl.
Respect the
parents
Self-aware, not
a joker
Crack the joke,
provoke will all
I have a
dream boy who respect girl.
Sometime can
drink
Not a drunkard
Trust
worthy, good behave
Positive thought,
comprehensible
I have a
dream boy who respect girl.
Mind is a combination of various cognitive faculties that enables consciousness, perception, thinking, judgement and memory. It holds the power of imagination, recognition and responsible for processing feelings and emotions, resulting in attitudes and actions.
Mental pressure is a
kind of demand or threat. When we feel threatened, our nervous system responds
by releasing a flood of stress hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol,
which rouse the body for emergency action. Hearts starts to pounds faster,
muscles tighten, blood pressure rises, breathe quickens and senses become
sharper.
Whenever there is some pressure to work hardly
we feel lazy on it. Neither we can work properly nor we can get success. During
the childhood days, parents always give pressure to read, focus on study and
not to play more. The children seem aggressive with their parents.
Whenever we
grow older slowly we find the value of education and read our self without the
pressure of anyone. It is very hard to do work under the pressure of
other. Most of the boss of private company feel them superior and always give
pressure to the staff. During the learning and working phase of life, person
can make mistake.
But the boss threatens in such a way that, they have not make
any mistake in their life. Not only in job also in schools and colleges,
teachers always want to give pressure by criticizing their mistakes. Is it a good solution for the problem?
Mental pressure
interferes with judgement and cause to make bad decisions. It reduces enjoyment
and make us feel bad. Not only this it makes us anxious, frustrated or mad. In
addition to this, unable to laugh, afraid of free time, unable to work and not
willing to discuss problems with others are other problem created by mental
pressure.There is some
preventive measure to avoid mental pressure.
Try to express feelings instead of
bottling them up. Have a will to compromise, manage your better time. We can
also reframe problem and look at the big picture. In addition to this we can
also go for a walk, spend time in nature, call a good friend, write a journal
and take a long bath.
If we study carefully, we will be able to secure good marks in the examinations. If the output turns worse, our hopes drop down consequently burden coupled with tension and frustration float in our mind. For the failure, parents on the one hand blame us while on the other hand teachers and relatives exert huge pressure upon us. It is also similar in the journey of life. For instance, when we expect five thousand rupees and our parents offer half of our demand, our heart started to cry rolling tears from our cheek.
Depression is a serious kind of illness where people have low moods, stumpy self- esteem and loss of appetite or interest. Anyone whether children or elder may suffer from this disease. Thus, the disease has no any age limitation. It is the upshot of overwhelming sadness. During a journey of life, ups and down may occur at any time. Untreated depression may lead to the serious hurdle which may put our life into serious risk.
Feelings of sadness or emptiness for more than a week is one of the symptoms of depression. Extreme irritability over minor issues, full of anxiety and restlessness, loss of desires in any activities are some of the emotional symptoms of the disease. In addition to the fixation on the past, meaningless about life, showing excessive anger over minor issues are other symptoms of this disease. Apart from emotional symptoms, there are also physical symptoms like insomnia or sleeping too much, debilitating fatigue, weight gain or loss, difficulties in making decisions, unexplained aches and pains among others.
Life is full of wishes and dreams. Some of the desires are easy to fulfill while other can’t be fulfilled. Various kinds of unwanted wishes may lead us towards wrong path. In the name of fulfilling wishes, we may encourage towards bad work. It is no doubt that we must have an ambition in life, but high dream or over ambition may lead to the frustration which turn into depression. Thus, self-satisfaction is a key point of life. We should try to enjoy on what we have achieved. Frustration may lead us to the depression. If we cannot fulfill our goal in the absence of hard work, patience and dedication we may be pushed towards depression.
Some people may be the victim of depression due to family problem, state of unemployment while others may fall due to high expectation. Likewise, some teenagers may move depression owing to break up in their love relation.
Most people do not notice or ignore depression at the earlier stage. They rush hospitals and rehabilitation center when the problem escalates. Although there is certain treatment it is hard to recover fully. Self-realization and meditation are some of the techniques to come out of the depression. Attempting to challenge the negative thoughts that overstays in our mind may also overcome depression. We may visit museum, read books and try to get pleasure by involving in different activities.
- Published in Swasthyakhabar.com
- Published in Swasthyakhabar.com
Have you ever thought about mentally retarded person? Don’t you have any inquisition in your mind about their illness? Most of us and our society regard them in a peculiar way. Still, they are tagged as Pagal (insane) in our society. Are they really awful people? Can’t we talk with them and share their ideas or feeling with us? I found most people try to walk far away from them (retarded person) as if the latter were evil of the society. Have you ever tried to talk with them? I have got many chances to interact with them. In fact, it’s really interesting to listen their story.
Mental illness refers to a wide range of mental health conditions along with disorders that affect our mood, thinking level and behaviors. Serious mental illness includes clinical depression, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, panic disorder, post traumatic stress disorder and borderline personality disorder. In one context Psychologist Jarod Kintz tells, ‘one in four people have a mental illness. You can be the one to make it two in four, if you will join me for a dance.’
Although the exact cause of most mental illnesses is not known, it is triggered by a combination of genetic, biological, social, psychological and environmental factors. Some factors like childhood abuse, social isolation, the death of nearest one, unemployment, poverty or debt may lead to the mental illness. Likewise, domestic violence, constant fragile health condition or other chronic diseases, long term stress are other contributing factors for the disease.
In a bid to obtain our aim and get to a successful path, sometimes we behave as if we ourselves were insane people. Certainly, no one desires to be a retarded person knowingly. Various ups and down and gloomy situation in the path of life make them ill. The usual problem behind the illness in our country is family related problems, drug addiction and alcohol misuse.
Over ambition is one of the causes of this disease. No one analyses his or her illness in thee earlier stage of illness. Thus it is wise to avoid over ambitious feeling in your mind and live in fantasy. Work hard and follow a formula of patience in the present situation. Try to live a present life happily and never try to cheat other. Most people commit mistake in present and regret in future. Try to improve your mistake instead of penitent in the past. Juliette Lewis says ‘The bravest thing I ever did was continuing my life when I wanted to die.’
Mental illness can distraught people of any age or income, educational level and cultural background. Many chronic illnesses require ongoing treatment whereas some of them can be treated with medication, psychotherapy, group therapy, day treatment or partial treatment and behavior modification. Along with this, supplementary methods like water therapy, massage and biofeedback can also be implemented to combat against this disease.
Shannon L.Alder suggest ‘Never give up on someone with a mental illness. When ‘I’ is replaced by ‘We’, illness becomes wellness.’
In the journey of life,
we meet different persons with variety of thoughts, like the salad of different
items. Some are smart by looks whereas some are smart by their mind. People
carry different ability and capacity to do their work.
It does not mean the person with short height
and thin body cannot perform work as the taller one. It does not mean they do
not have ability to tolerate the gloomy incident of life.
Without providing them an opportunity, how one
can claim that you are rejected due to your weak physical appearance? They have two hands to work, two legs to walk
whereas beautiful mind to thought. It might be difficult to do the physical
work but it does not make any difficulty in mental works.
Someday my friends and
relatives used to scold at me, as being a smaller one. I never take them
seriously and always laugh at their words. Why should I worry for being small
and thin? I can never be tall and fat with unnecessary burdens in my mind.
I am happy on myself and
my physical appearance. I believe in my skill, passion, hard work, dedication, labor and enthusiasm towards the work. I know my duty and responsibility. I am
responsible for my parents, relatives and friends.
But there is some
unexpected incident in life, unexpected words from senior personality. The
words are bitter and kill the energy. It is one of the challenging situation to
open the doors of opportunities.
But I should fight with it, I must be strong.
Although some people encourage me but I am alone to face the difficult. I am
lonely to search the better way of my life. One day I need to show them that
people should be judged by their mind, skills and ability but not with outer
appearance.
Along with this the extra
challenge appears within myself. I believe within the challenges there are
opportunities too. I always forward my step in my hope. Let’s hope one day I
can make them feel guilty with their words. It is an inspiration not a source
of dissatisfaction.
Life is a journey of different amazing moments.It move according to situation & condition. No one can predict about future.In the Journey,there are many ups & down,happiness & sadness,progress & failure,many more,,,,,,,,,,Don't know who will suffer from which problem? Life is uncertain.It is full of struggle.Everyone has unique character than other.
Always be optimistic towards the way of life you are moving .Its better to believe on yourself , try to make it beautiful not with ornaments & make up but with your positive thought & hard work.Success is a part of life. Achievement can be gain by hard work.So, be laborious & follow the way of truth.
Life does not flow according to our wishes and desires . Neither it can be hold in our fist nor it can be stop like the burning fire with the help of water. It is like the flowing river . We decorate our life with lots of dreams. Among them some are fulfill whereas some crack on the way . We feel happy when the dreams come true whereas we feel sad and want to cry when the dreams are not fulfill.
We left our parents , stay away from house in search of bright future . In the way we meet different people. Some are helpful whereas some pretend to help only with mouth and push our legs behind us. Really, the human mind is selfish who always wants his happiness, want to blossom his own life and kick other. This is the scenario of our society where I am struggling and searching my own identity.
I am in learning phase of my life . Lots of things to do for myself, my family, society, country and for the world.
My father suggest me not to spend money in unnecessary matter.My mother seems angry when i lost money.My brother seems happy when i give him money from my pocket.Similarly friends may be far if they need to pay my bill. Is money everything?
If it is not than why their is a barrier between rich & poor? What the reason behind the death of people who are name as poor,who don't have money to pay for their treatment. Why the children of poor can not afford for higher education? On the other hand the children of rich people must study the subject which is highly recognize by society in order to show their prestige.I feel humiliation by the scenario of our society.How can we create equality? We all should think on it seriously.
Money can buy everything but not inner satisfaction & happiness. Some people works hard and they did not get salary in time . They are forced to left the job due to money although they have desire, wish and passion to work . Dispute arouse in between boss and staffs . We study hardly by paying huge about of money . Many youths are moving toward foreign country due to poverty .
Money is not everything but it is necessity to lead a life, to fulfill the wishes and desires of life . People have different kinds of wishes which may or may not fulfill . Is is also linked with money . Our mind should not money minded but we should feel the smell of money .
Shrawan is regarded as a month to pray for Lord Shiva. Most of the female of our country think that they can increase the age of husband by wearing green ring & decorating their hands with Mahendi. Is it possible to get good husband of good manner by the fasting? I found most of the unmarried girls wearing ring in their hand. Is this a tradition or fashion?
Most of the girl fast whole day without having any food. If we can get good husband by fasting i am ready to fast whole day in a year. If u want to pray, pray for humanity, serve for humanity. If female fast for long life of male, who will fast for long life of female?
Most of the women wants to decorate them self with various ornaments. They focus on beauty than their duty. The growing fashion is one of the existing factor for downfall of women. The women are wasting their time as well as money to decorate themselves.The fashion will never let women to move forward and to achieve their aim.
Mind is like a rubber. It expands according to our effort, dedication and hard work. We can use it to think positive as well as negative . It regulates according to our way and direction .
Sometime it thinks a lot which makes us lazy and no mood to work . Sometime it thinks positively which encourage us to work. Sometime it thinks negatively which discourage us to work .
In some way of our life it fails to decide the appropriate way. What to do and how to use ? Wishes and desires are in one way and mind flows in other way . Both of them are immensely valuable but where to move, which direction to choose?
Sometime it says you should awake for your bright career. Sometime it says you need to sleep to decrease high ambition and thoughts. Just move ahead , let it flow , just watch and see , do not make yourself weak.
Several thoughts arouse in my mind. Some people guide to move in left way whereas some guide in right way. I am unable to decide which way to choose for my bright carrier. I am in the phase of learning. Lots of things are remaining to learn. I should do many things for my family as well as society. I need to deal with many persons to forward my step. Its hard to analyze who are right and who are wrong.
Problem arouse in life . Its easy to suggest other but hard to implement in own life . Hard to tackle the problem . All thoughts seems good but difficult to find the excellent . Career and study both are important for me . Money is also important to guide both of them. Where should i flow? Whether to choose career or money .
I think i need to be self dependence but I lost time to develop my skill . What to do? Where to move ? Risky and challenging moment of my life.
This is the month of Mangsir. Mainly this month is regarded as best month for marriage. Arrange marriage is especially preferred in this month. Some family forced to marriage the girl if they get good guy. I have seen some girls who left their study for marriage.
Most of them are unable to continue their study where as some are continuing their study. Some people in the society still says that female can do nothing. Why should they need to study? But some how the scenario has been changed. I think every girls should make their Currier, to be self dependent before marriage.
In the scenario of our country a girl should left her study after the marriage ceremony . Most of the parents decide to marry girl if the fail in exams . They seems worried about their daughter if they are far from the house . Our society is conservative . They blame girls in minor issues .
Whenever a boy is in front of girl he flatter other and wanna be superior to himself. Keep in mind you will never reach to the path of success by insulting other. If you are really intelligence than show in front of mass and stage, show your capacity in your exam of regular life.
Being a female my intention is not to dominate male but it is the real fact which I have been observing within my circle. Whenever I reach I found a guy being over talented in front of girl. I think an extra energy emerge inside him when he is with girl. Don't take it negatively it is not for all the boys.
It is only for those boys who disrespect one girl when he his with other girl whom he like or............Please respect your friends. You need the help of other friends too. Do not speak unnecessary words .Speak according to situation and condition.Think yourself where you are and what to speak.
Try to respect all. Life is short and everyone wants to pass it happily. It hurts when you are back bitten by other.Keep in mind that your words also hurt other and being a human all have capacity to identify your satire.
Lead your regular life by your own capacity but never try to show your over capacity. You know properly, you suffer from problem if u eat a lot. In the same way you will fail to reach to the destination if you show your over capacity.